PLAYFUL, SAFER, INCLUSIVE,
CREATIVE, COMMUNITY SPIRITED,
SOCIALLY CONSCIOUS, SEXUALLY PROGRESSIVE
Humor is a vital component of every creative element of Kinky Salon. The cabaret is funny. Costumes are ridiculous. The music is upbeat and fun. The décor is colorful and silly. We combine all those factors to create a playful environment that is less intimidating and friendlier than most sex culture spaces.
We use three basic strategies to create safety at Kinky Salon: The PAL system, the Agreements, and Walkaround Hosts. The PAL system requires that every guest arrives and leaves with someone, and that they are responsible for that person while they’re at the party. They don’t have to be a date, or any particular gender. You can read the complete PAL system here.
The Agreements are the list of dos and don’ts that we post at the door and read out to every attendee, so everyone knows what behavior is expected. We use volunteers to keep an eye on things and make sure these standards are maintained. We aren’t shy about ejecting people who don’t play by the rules. You can read the complete Charter here.
Walkaround Hosts are the eyes and the ears of the party. During the event they mingle with the crowd, check on the different spaces, and make sure the event is going smoothly.
We don’t judge potential guests on looks, age, or sexual orientation. Everyone is welcome at Kinky Salon. We welcome folks of all sexual orientations, gender expressions, abilities, body types, and racial identities/ethnicities. We are queer friendly, body positive and our entry policy is one big YES. We have membership applications to fill out, but they’re there to put you in the right mindset for the event, not to judge you.
Every event has a theme to pique the imagination of the community. We value homemade, hot glued, janky costumes over fancy store-bought ones. Costumes give every guest the opportunity to be creative.
The cabaret, interactive performances, and decor allow us to showcase the creativity of the community, and it all reflects the theme of the event. Even the music the DJ plays is thematic.
- COMMUNITY SPIRITED
Kinky Salon is built on volunteerism and collaboration. Rather than being a product created for consumption, it’s an invitation to participate. The community continues between events with social networking and gatherings. The events are not created for individual financial gain.
- SOCIALLY CONSCIOUS
As a global community we advocate the liberation of sexuality, not just as a hedonistic pursuit, but also as a means of furthering progressive culture. We understand the complexities of the world we live in, and we strive to be most excellent in all our interactions.
- SEXUALLY PROGRESSIVE
Sexuality is integrated into the social fabric of the community. At the parties there are playspaces for getting sexually adventurous, but there’s no pressure to participate. There’s also plenty of space for flirting and socializing.
Progressive sexuality isn’t just about having sex at parties, it means understanding the cultural landscape of sex, and supporting the significant changes happening in our society. These include ideas like the importance of consent, the deception of the binary gender narrative, the need for feminism and an exploration of masculinity, and the dangers of sexual objectification.